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Clothes are brighter, people are more open about their feelings and often mementoes, which were special to the deceased, are placed in or around the casket. There is often a feel- ing of spontaneity and humour as family and friends make personal tributes, recalling anec- dotes of the past. Even caskets have changed. While tradi- tional, varnished caskets are still the most pop- ular, many people ask for a painted or decorated casket often choosing the deceased’s favourite colour. Themed caskets can be selected to refect personality or special interests. Caskets can come painted with roses, kittens, puppies, race cars, rainbows and other artwork. Because the modern funeral is likely to con- tain many elements of joy, thanks and warm memories, there is often a photographic dis- play, video, personal records and other signif- cant mementoes on exhibit. Whilst grieving families require comfort and dignity, they also need avenues to express their love in their own way, so it is important when selecting a funeral director that there is empathy between the family and the company selected. Thankfully, most funeral directors are sensitive to the different needs of families will have many organisational aspects well in hand. Apart from gathering together those special items to feature at the funeral, as well as writing a eulogy, there are many aspects to consider. Therefore it can be extremely helpful that funeral directors can usually arrange for some or all of the following according to the family’s wishes and their budget: • Liaison with clergy or celebrant • Burial or cremation • Floral tributes • Newspaper placement of death and bereavement thanks notices • Registry of death obligations •Printing of service orders • Mourning vehicles Refreshment facilities and catering However, families may want to undertake some of these arrangements themselves – they may already have a personal relationship with a minister or a celebrant or may wish to cater for people at home after the funeral. All that can be discussed with the funeral director in question but it is good to know help is at hand. Later there will be a headstone or memorial plaque to consider too. Where there is a terminal illness in a family, death may well be expected. If this is the case it is important that legal affairs such as wills, out- standing loans, insurances and more have been attended to if possible. Of course, sometimes the passing of a loved one is totally unexpected and perhaps it is timely to remind everyone not to leave legali- ties until it is too late. Young people in particu- lar are inclined to think they have years ahead of them. However, life can quickly deliver a blow and these days many young people have assets that they should make arrangements for if the worst should happen. Discussing and planning for a funeral is never easy but working with caring, considerate and approachable professionals will ease the bur- den and help families deal with this diffcult time.
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